What if feeling safe in your relationships didn't have to be a mystery?
What if peace, trust, and closeness weren't things you had to chase or earn, but things you could build, from the inside out?
- Unpacks the science behind how anchoring relationships help us heal attachment wounds and build inner security
- Shows how attachment patterns shape our behaviors in love, friendship, family, and even work
- Guides you in recognizing your core wounds and how they show up in relationships
- Offers embodied tools and practices to move from anxious or avoidant patterns toward secure connection
- Centers the healing power of co-regulation, attunement, and safe connection with others
- Draws from interpersonal neurobiology, trauma healing, and somatic practices, making the science of connection deeply personal and practical
- Helps you understand what a secure relationship feels like and how to create one
- Reminds you that healing happens in safe connection, not isolation
In SAFE, therapist and author Jessica Baum invites you into a new way of relating, not only with others, but with yourself. This isn't about fixing what's broken. It's about gently uncovering what's been protecting you, understanding where your patterns came from, and learning how to create the kind of safety that allows real intimacy to grow.
You'll explore your inner world with compassionate, guided by the science of attachment and the wisdom of your own body. Through reflective exercises and somatic practices, you'll learn to recognize what secure love actually feels like and how to begin creating it in your life.
Safety isn't a reward for perfection.
It's something you're worthy of right now, exactly as you are.
— Harville Hendrix, PHD & Helen Lakelly Hunt, PHD
coauthors of Getting the Love You Want and Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space Between
“A thorough and readable presentation that locates the context of wounding and healing in the ‘space-between’….We strongly recommend this WONDERFUL book to therapists and everyone who want a clear analysis of the relational dynamics of the healing journey and a clear path to achieving it.”
— Julie Menanno,
author of Secure Love
“SAFE is a masterful integration of neuroscience, attachment theory, and real-world healing. Jessica Baum bridges clinical insight with deep compassion, offering readers a roadmap for transforming the way they relate to themselves and others.”
— Mark Groves,
Human Connection Specialist and coauthor of Liberated Love
“Reading SAFE felt like sitting down with a wise, compassionate friend who understands the ache of disconnection and the beauty of repair. Jessica Baum has written a roadmap for anyone yearning to feel secure, seen, and safe in their relationships.”
— Terri Cole,
Psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss and Too Much, and host of The Terri Cole Show
“Jessica Baum blends attachment science with deep compassion to create a practical guide for nervous system healing. SAFE is a must-read for anyone who struggles to feel secure in relationships or is overwhelmed by their own emotions. It offers both insight and relief, using tools grounded in polyvagal theory and neurobiology. SAFE provides real strategies—not just theory.”
— Dr. Ingrid Clayton,
author of Fawning
“What makes SAFE so powerful is its gentle depth. Jessica Baum invites us to hold our protective patterns with reverence while guiding us toward true connection. This is attachment work for people ready to reclaim their story — and their worth.”
— Sheleana Aiyana,
founder of Rising Woman, author of Becoming The One
“Relationships challenge us to our core, and yet they are the foundation of our humanity. SAFE breathes love and understanding as we meet ourselves and our limitations with curiosity and compassion, and ultimately move toward becoming secure.”
